It is Wednesday, Hump Day, so once again my topic is sex and relationships. It shouldn’t be too graphic today, so you won’t need to clutch your pearls.
I joined Bumble last night. Sigh. I had the single girls at work take a couple of photos and help me sort through the ones I already have so I could set up my profile. I haven’t done much online dating, so just filling out the profile info is daunting at times. I find it hard to describe myself and what I want.
One thing I will say is that the men on Bumble are very attractive. I was impressed. Of course, what will be interesting is if I actually match with any of them. I swiped quite a bit and then stopped around 10:00. I also joined the Bumble BF section and swiped right on some ladies who are looking for friends. Perhaps something will come from that as well.
The reason I finally decided to put my toes in the Bumble water is that I am reading a book, “Love After 50” by Francine Russo. She is a big proponent of online dating. What is really interesting about the book is her chapters on sex for older couples. She has really redefined sex for me. I also feel like a friggin’ sex goddess because I am generally GGG as Dan Savage would say. GGG = Good, Giving and Game. Francine had some interesting stories about what defines sex for those over 60, 70 and beyond. Fascinating.
Back to online dating, one point that Francine makes is that online dating takes time. Not only the time of the daily swipes and messages, but also that it is a marathon, not a sprint. Patience. There it is again — that word, that attitude, that aspiration I strive for. She also is quite fine with 30 days on, jump off for a break and jump back on. My plan is to try Bumble, jump off when my brain explodes and then try Hinge.
At the very least, I might get some notable blog posts out of this….or not. I need more or better photos. I need to think about my profile more, but I also need to not overthink this.
Cross your fingers and wish me luck. Throw in some patience for good measure…