Bumble is a very strange place. People’s insecurities and issues pop out at a moment’s notice.
For example, I spent a good part of Sunday texting with a seemingly nice guy. A little younger by 5-6 years, stable job in a highly-skilled trade, military vet, divorced after 20 years. We bantered and it seemed fine.
The next day we chat a little more. This time his messages are a little accusatory. He asks if I am a man-hater at one point, but I laugh that off. I asked if we could meet for coffee or a drink. He came back saying I was being passive-aggressive. Really? I thought, “Hmmm, am I seeing red flags here?”
I explain it wasn’t my intent to be passive-aggressive and that tone is lost in texting. He chuckles and asks if I want to exchange phone numbers. I sent a thumbs up emoji and BOOM – he unmatched. WTF?
In my mind, I thought, “Whew, dodged that gas-lighting, insecure dude”. He probably thinks he pulled one over on me. As I write this, it dawns on me that something was going on with him. I think he was drinking.
On the same day, I had a catfish. You can tell when there is virtually no info on their profile and within their first two messages they want your email. BAM, I unmatched.
Attractive guy seeking monogamous relationship asks me twice if I’m single. He unmatched within 3 messages. Meh, another weird dude dodged.
One of my matches is a bona fide wedding singer. Hilarious. He sent me his website. The girls at work loved it. I doubt we will meet, but it would be fun.
Another guy seems OK, but I am not excited to meet. He asked for my number. I stalled a day or two and then told him I am starting to see someone, so I want to give it some space to see how it develops. He appreciated my “honesty”. Was I honest? You will soon find out…